I've noticed several members have mentioned autism. Well I have Asperger's Syndrome which is high level autism. I speak but still have difficulties with communication and social skills. My 19 year old son has Asperger's too. We understand each other so well. Have any of you heard of it?

Dub

Hiya,

Yip, I've heard of it... my son's home school teacher thought it might be that. I know it can be difficult... but you have a son, who says you can't lead a normal life

Hello,

Yes I have heard of this. I work with 15 year olds who have the same thing.

Brilliant ot see you on here

Hi

Yes, I've heard of it too. My soon-to-be 12 year old son has it. His particular difficulties are with social situations, people in general etc.

Ali

Paris has Aspergers/autism/Adhd also and she's just turned 8 - Paris has various problems from poor motor/social skills to developmental delay and emotional delay

Aspergers is the form of autism my son suffers from. It is hard work dealing with him, but we love him all the same.

Patience is vital when dealing with us Aspie's. We don't mean to be awkward, but when, for example, things don't go the way we expect them to, it frightens us and we find it hard to adapt to the unexpected situation.

Dub.

i am still learning about aspergers. my 5yrs old grand daughter has it. she does not like change. and she has trouble with her social skills

I know that you can have "levels" of the Asperger symdrome. I have two kids in school with it. A lover level. They can act a bit strange sometimes, but most of the time they act normal. Their mum loves that our school gives them the chance to study as normal kids and not put them in a special needs class that don't give a good education. She held a informational meeting with all the teachers last spring how to handle kids with those kinds of handicaps. It was so good to hear.

Hi,
I too have a son with Aspergers, he has a dual diagnosis with ADHD which was diagnosed age 5. He is now 18.
We have had a horrendous time with him for all of his life. The teenage years have been the worse with drink, drugs and trouble with the police.
Yet of my 3 sons he is the most loving, most loyal and would do anything for anyone.
My heart goes out to anyone who has this condition, it seems to be something that not many people understand.
Janice

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Originally posted by j3jan:

We have had a horrendous time with him for all of his life. The teenage years have been the worse with drink, drugs and trouble with the police.

Janice

This is a problem with many kids that gets these kind of sicknesses. They do tend to get caught up in drugs, violence and alcohol. One reason with this is that they think that it's what you need to do to be accepted.
I got to hear it like this:
When they're small they're often very clumsy and this is mostly connected to that they're young. During this time they start to get friends and have a "natural" life. When they start school their behaviour seldom change that much, they're still clumsy and do things in the wrong way. During this stage their friends starts to think that they are strange and embarrassing. They stop being their friends. SO often about the third school year they get very depressed and start to look a others that have a lot of friends around them to see how they act. They start to do like them (or what they think is that they do.) This becomes even more so in about high school, but now it's a lot about s-e-x and drugs etc. They hear that the popular girls and guys do these things... and then they have to do it too. The girls often get used by it and are often called bad things since they let all the guys do these things with them and the guys have a tendency to get into the crime part.
A not is to say that this is mostly frequent in the cases where they have not been given an diagnose. When they've received one in early ages they can get the proper guidance and help to not fall into these holes.
In Sweden they have been able to diagnose that 63% of young people getting caught stealing/robbing/vandalism etc. are having some kind of these diagnoses...
This is scary.

this is my fear with paris at 8 she is already easily led by others and they egg her on to do things at school which obviously lands her in bother.

I took my son (who's Aspie like me) out of school when he was 11 and home schooled him. He was being bullied and was finding comprehensive school very difficult, what with different classrooms and different teachers for all the different subjects. Away from the influence of others, he has matured(at his own pace) into a kind, loving, respectful young man. Yes, we are isolated from the "outside world" (as we call it) and we're thought of as The Weirdo Family, getting bricks thrown at our windows (had to board up my kitchen window recently, no point replacing the glass as the kids round here will just break it again) but that's the way it is, I guess, and we're used to it.

Dub

Oh thats awful to be persecuted like that.

It wouldn't suit Paris to be home tutored unless things got very bad at school as she has made a few friends and she's easily the brightest kid in the class. it's her behaviour thats a problem.

why are some pepole like that. i know with my gd if she starts pepole remark she needs a slap then they look away when you say they have aspergus. because they can not see anything wrong with the children

I think other people have more of a problem than my son does. They are the ones who like has been said say helpful things like "a good smack would sort that child out" - if only.
We had major problems with Edward being in mainstream school where he was forever getting excluded because of his behaviour. The fact the other children would tell him to do things and he would do what they said was never taken into consideration. He even got really hurt by a child pinning him up against a wall and kicking him, but the teachers did absolutely nothing about it.
We were extremely lucky to get him into the best special needs school around here. He has been there nearly 5 years now and the difference is astounding. If we hadn't got him in there I was going to take him out of school as he learnt nothing there at all but that other children were horrid to him.
Dub, I really feel for you and your child, to be persecuted in that way by narrow minded idiots who understand nothing is so bad.

Alison, I'm so glad Edward has made progress. He's obviously got teachers who are willing to take the time to cater to his needs. That's wonderful

Dub

I think children should be taught about autism and disabilities.Its ignorance that can cause bullying!

You are so right Steph, it is ignorance that causes the bullying but unfortunately it is also the ignorance of the parents of the bullys who seem to think it is ok. I had an instance where Edward was being picked on in front of me and the mother did nothing. I had a right go at the child and the mother in the end.