I am going out with a boyfriend at the moment I have only been going out a few weeks, and this is the third time of giving it another go! But I dont really like him as he is very childish, and I dont really fancy him the way he does to me. So I want to break up with him, tonight as I have just come out of a horrible marriage about 6 months ago, and dont really want to have another relationship just yet, I have told him about this before, but he just went all moody and I felt I had to say yes to him, just to stop him from being moody. And also he works with me, so its doubley hard, and all the people at work, like him too. And that's another reason, why I didnt say no, was that I didnt want people at work, to hate me for doing this again to him. All one colleuge has said was to just make sure, I know I want I want this time, and I am not allowed to go back to him again, as he wouldnt like to be messed about with again. I just dont like upsetting people, and I will this. I am on holiday this week,too so I thought it would be the best time, for him to simmer things over while I am not there, and hopefully when I go back to work next week, it will be sort of dwindled down abit!
What do people think I should do?

Thanks.

I think you know what you want to do, have the conviction to follow your feelings through.

ann

Tell him to b*gger off and stop messing YOU about and tell people at work to mind their own business!!

If you don't fancy him and you think he is childish and moody, don't waste any more time on him. It is not your problem if he is moody, he needs to grow up!

As for your colleague who told you to make sure, what on earth has it got to do with them what you and your boyfriend each do in your personal lives???

Tell your boyfriend it's over tonight, then let him sort himself out

cant really help Debs .. having not being in that situation meself
but {{{ hugs }}} coming your way ...x

So sorry about your divorce ((( Hugs)) its a very traumatic time. I was divoced early 2007 and still dealing with some issues.

I think in your situation you should tell him as soon as possible that you do not want a relationship at the moment. Its no point giving it another go and not wanting to be with someone. It may be harsh but for the better in the long run

Thanks guys, its just knowing what to say to him too! The right words.

Just be honest and tell him the truth its not fair to lead him.Sounds like your better off without him anyway if he is as childish as you say.Hopefully this will not affect the way you have to work together.
Good Luck

How about
YOUR TOO MUCH OF A MOODY GIT AND TO CHILDISH FOR ME SO ITS OVER NOW GET OUT AND I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN (outside of work anyway) he should get the drift then

Remind him that you already said that you were having a difficult time after your divorce and that you don't want another relationship so soon.

You have been honest and fair with him and if he sulks or goes moody, then that just proves you shouldn't waste any more time with him. Everyone has to put up with disappointments in life and if he can't handle the breakup of a very short relationship, how on earth will he cope with more difficult things? It's better to break it off sooner rather than later, it will only get harder to find the words and end it.

Good luck

Just be honest and tell him you are not ready for another relationship so soon after your divorce - if he can't deal with it - it's his problem

i think I will, say things along those lines. I do feel slightly guitly as has been really good to me while we have been together, but since being with him more I see a different side of him like this moody and childish behavor. Also he did help me out alot when I was really, really scared about these spiders at my Mum and Dad's house, as they live in a village and there were three of them, and I sort of snapped at him to get rid of them for me, and we were going out with each other then, and he did get rid of them for me, but went all moody because I had snapped at him.
So i do feel slightly guilty about all that, but deep down I dont want to be with him anymore.

all men are moody and childish though LOL

I've been in a similar situation, after a slightly messy boyfriend break-up I went out with a guy I had been friends with for a bit. I guess it was more to have someone there who I knew was nice guy. Unfortunately I couldn't see past the fact that he was a friend plus he was just TOO nice (don't you just love a bad boy? ). But I messed him about a bit with being indecisive, but at the end of the day does anyone really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same? I shouldn't think so! "It's not you, it's me."

Yeah I feel like that, a bit of excitment, I suppose. The more we spend together the less things we have to talk about, as all he does is play on the computer and that's it!
I have tried that one before its not you its me. He then just says, well wasnt there anything between at all! I just want to try and end things amicably cant spell! But its just the same situation as you (Broken by Ruth) I am very indesice at the best of times. And I know what i want now. Just want to be on my own for a bit really let my hair down and stuff.

Don't feel guilty just because he's been nice to you, I know that sounds mean. Though if he's going to behave in that way its emotional blackmail and you don't need that after being through the ending of a relationship and then a divorce. Follow your heart, trust me I've been there.

Lifes too short hun, be honest, get out of the relationship and enjoy yourself a bit.

guess what I have done it now, I have told him I told him right at the end of the night, so he did stay for something and didnt just stay for me telling him that!
He was okayish, but he just said that he try and stay friends and actually said that he will just have to deal with it.
As I said all I wanted was to have someone to have a laugh with and be a friend with like go to places and be with each for company and not for a deep relationship but he wanted more much more, and I didnt want that, so we called a day!
I do feel so much better, but also I feel terrible really bad for doing this to someone. So now its just me and Millie to ourselves for a bit now.
Thanks everyone for helping me out. Its just why do i feel so bad?

You feel bad because you're a nice person!
Try not to, you did what was best for all of you and you were brave to pull out now and not let him hang on.

Give him the flick and move on!